I could not have thought of a more obvious title but read till the end and you’ll know I mean it. Not because I am a philosophy expert but because this is something that I been preaching for the past 8 months and this head led me from making 0$ to 1000$
You can search “How do I grow mentally?” or “How to become unrecognisable in months” but most of the times you’ll find generic answers.
- Become more disciplined.
- Make targeted goals and follow them
- Go into a monk mode and give up desires
- Wake up early, exercise and be focused
Undoubtedly, these are things that you should follow. I don’t disregard this approach as this is in-fact helpful, but there is still something that is missing here.
To get head of the 99% of the people, you’ll have to do what the 99% is unwilling to do
This is my motive and something that I tell myself everyday I wake up. 99% of the people I know are willing to party each weekend instead of learning to grow — so I do that. 99% of people are willing to take that job and do what is asked of them — so I go above and beyond to let people know I can do much more. 99% of people I know would rather give up on things than be uncomfortable in learning it.
If having goals and a good disciplined approach towards like is all it takes to be a millionaire, my househelp, my milkman, even my parents would have been a millionaire. Because all these mentioned people are diligent at their job, they wake up at the exact same time, save money, and have goals that they want to achieve.
If that skill is something that you can learn online or inculcate just by watching 10 min of sessions, then trust me, you’re replaceable; because millions of people can watch it, learn it and do it in the exact same manner as you can. Here are 7 things that you need to work on in order to become a better version of yourself:
- Focus on what matters
The emphasis is not on ‘Focus’ but on ‘What matters’. Look around your place and see what matters to you most. People will tell you to read read read but if you like podcasts or gain knowledge better by listening then do so. If you prefer yoga instead of exercising, do so. Don’t waste your energy on things that you are not comfortable doing. Life is too short for doing things that you’re not excited about. Social media, celebrity gossip, or material possessions — all are energy drainers. This means taking a hard look at our priorities and making sure we’re investing our time and energy in the things that truly matter to us.
2. Embrace discomfort
Growth and discomfort go hand in hand. To get successful you’ll have to do something that most people are unwilling to do. Take bigger risks or even step outside the societal expectation. If you want to grow mentally, you need to be willing to face our fears, take risks, and embrace uncertainty. This means getting comfortable with discomfort, rather than trying to avoid it at all costs. When you embrace discomfort, you open ourselves up to new opportunities and experiences, and become more resilient and adaptable in the face of challenges.
3. Take responsibility for your life
I know you’ve been through stuff in your life, and that trauma is not easy to forget. Trust me I know, I’ve gone through a lot of shit and in some ways am even going through. That kind of stuff never leaves you, there are days when I am sad about it but you know what — I will never let it stop me again.
Take responsibility for your lives, rather than blaming others or external circumstances for problems. When we take responsibility, you become empowered to make positive changes and pursue goals with purpose and intention. This means acknowledging your flaws and mistakes, and being willing to learn from them rather than making excuses.
4. Let go of the need for approval
One of the biggest obstacles to personal growth is your need for validation. When you base our self-worth on external factors, you become trapped in a never-ending cycle of seeking approval and avoiding criticism. There are business ideas that people never liked but people stiff went ahead with, why? Because they have faith in the idea.
To get ahead of 99% of people, you need to let go of this need for approval and focus on developing a sense of internal validation. This means accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all, and being willing to take risks and pursue your goals even if others disapprove.
5. Develop resilience
Resilience is key to personal growth and success. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, adapt to changing circumstances, and keep moving forward in the face of adversity. To develop resilience, you need to embrace discomfort, take risks, and learn from your failures. You also need to develop a sense of perspective, recognising that setbacks and failures are a natural part of the growth process.
6. Embrace the journey
Finding meaning in life is not achieving specific goals or milestones, but rather embracing the journey itself. This means finding joy in the process of growth and self-discovery, rather than focusing solely on the destination. You need to cultivate a sense of curiosity and wonder about the world, and approach each day with a sense of adventure and possibility. Most people become unhappy in their mid twenties because they feel aimless. From a young age our purposes and gaols were defined for you
- Go through school
- Get good grades
- Get into a good college
- Get a degree
- Get a job
By your mid twenties you are probably done with this cycle and then you are confused because you cannot think for yourself anymore. You have no one to tell you what to do and you think the rest of your life is doing that job and aiming for promotions. You need to embrace that life is all about learning and finding new things. Don’t let a set of rules decide what you can do with your life.
7. Cultivate meaningful relationships
Finally, cultivating meaningful relationships is so important for growth and happiness. Strong relationships provide us with a sense of connection, support, and belonging, and help us to navigate the challenges of life. Also, it is said you are the sum total of all the people you hand out with. Once you surround yourself with people who believe in you, challenge your knowledge and help you explore your true potential, you’re more likely to grow faster.
Be willing to invest time and energy in building and maintaining connections with others, and to be open and vulnerable in our interactions.
In conclusion, getting ahead of 99% of people and growing mentally does not necessarily require you to be a monk or even follow a very monotonous lifestyle, it requires a shift in mindset and approach. By focusing on what really matters, embracing discomfort, taking responsibility of our lives.
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